“The world is such a scary place. I hate that our kids have to grow up in this environment”
I see that kind of thing all the time on social media. Those concerned moms and dads are totally right. The world is a scary place. On top of all the ugly, hateful things going on in our world, there are so many pressures that are put on parents and kids these days. Public, private or homeschool? Grass fed, gluten free, or Mcdonalds? Everything you do is scrutinized and no matter what you choose, someone is going to think you’re the worst parent ever because of it.
I hate seeing disclaimers on every other post ‘don’t judge’ or ‘please no bashing’. Um, what?! Why are we bashing other moms for asking for help? We are supposed to be in this together! Aren’t we all trying to just keep our kids alive and raise them to be awesome humans? I shouldn’t have to make jokes about how I’m a ‘terrible mom’ because we had pizza for dinner tonight instead of homemade organic baked chicken. Adding ‘disclaimers’ or dissing yourself has become routine just to keep rude comments at bay.
Social media is a huge facilitator of the negativity. When something bad happens, it gets posted and shared thousands of times. Back before Facebook and social media, we would read the newspaper and watch the 6 o’clock news and that was that.
Now, all you have to do is look down at your phone and you see bad news and “TRIGGER WARNING” posts all over the place. I understand the value of being informed and educated on what’s going on in the world, but sometimes it can be a little much. A lot of these ‘trigger’ posts are from well meaning people who just want to make sure the same thing doesn’t happen to someone else.
I use the ‘unfollow’ or ‘hide’ buttons rather frequently so my Facebook page can remain a positive outlet for me to look at when I want to relax in the evenings. It might make me sound naive or appear ignorant but I really love living in my happy little bubble.
The fear mongering that I see on some of the ‘mom pages’ I follow (I.E. Pop Sugar Moms) is absolutely ridiculous and out of control. I understand click bait and it totally works but how mean to freak new moms out like that! We are already nervous about having a new baby, why add to it by posting about the kid who choked on stale puffs? I agree that it’s important to share things like this with other parents who may not think to check the expiration date but articles like that are popping up over every. Little. Thing.
Let me just take a moment to rant here. If your child owns a toy that has a squeaker or a hole in it (whether it’s a teether or a bath toy) and it is around water or gets submerged or rinsed off, guess what? IT WILL GET MOLDY. Can we stop being shocked and appalled and nauseated about the mold people find growing in damp, dark places? Come on, mamas. It’s science. It happens. Glue the holes shut or don’t buy squirt toys for the bath in the first place. Seeing all these new viral posts about things that grow mold is getting so old.
How about instead of encouraging this madness and sharing posts that make you sick to your stomach, we look at the good things in the world? Find something positive and share that article on your page! Get off your phone and plant a tree, pick up some trash or hold the door for someone.
There are so many small things you can do every day that might help someone to ‘restore their faith in humanity’. Let’s work on this, okay? Be a good, decent human. Help people who need it. Stop judging people for decisions that are entirely their business and have nothing to do with you. If you have to, put down your phone instead of starting an argument on a post that makes your blood boil. I promise you, whatever you have to say is not going to matter to the person who posted it. You are only encouraging them and they really don’t care what your opinion is! Instead, go read a book, fold that pile of laundry you have been posting pictures of, or color a picture with your kid!
It is so important that we show our children the beauty of this world instead of teaching them that the world is a nasty place and they are doomed. Teach your children how to deal with disappointment, how to cope with hard times, and how to be kind. Help them learn to respect their surroundings and the people they interact with. Let’s raise a generation that will put an end to the world being a ‘terrible place’. A generation who will learn from mistakes instead of becoming them. Who will end world hunger, racism, sexism and stop bullying.
Remember that your children see you. They see what you do, how you act and how you react in every situation. They are learning, and taking notes.
If you are screaming at the other cars on the road or being rude to your waitress, they notice. Become the kind of person you want your child to grow up to be. Let’s restore faith in humanity and make this world a beautiful place.
Show your children the good that remains. Teach them to enjoy nature. Raise them to be optimistic! If we are constantly moping about all of the bad things that are happening, we will fuel their anxiety and disdain for the world around them. I personally want to raise a positive, happy, respectful and kind person. Don’t you?